The song “This Is Me” from “The Greatest Showman” resonates deeply with those who have felt rejected, excluded, or pressured to conform. In this post, I want to explore how the themes of “This Is Me” can inspire late-diagnosed autistic adults to embrace their true selves. Fully accepting one’s autistic identity can be challenging due to the fear of stigma, internalised ableism, and past experiences of rejection.
Keala Settle’s “This Is Me” speaks to the heart. By analysing the lyrics closely, I will reveal how they reflect the experiences of marginalised individuals, including autistic adults. As the song moves from shame and exclusion to self-acceptance, it encourages people to speak out, express their needs, and challenge prejudice.
However, true self-acceptance isn’t always about grand declarations; it’s about the small, daily choices to unmask, set boundaries, and honour your needs while trying to find new ways to interact with others. Let’s explore step by step how autistic adults can embody the song’s message of dignity in subtle yet effective ways.
The Pain of Rejection and Exclusion
Like many autistic adults, you may have felt the sting of rejection, perhaps stemming from childhood bullying and continuing into your workplace or social settings as you try to make friends.
The lyrics of “This Is Me,” along with its powerful melody, create an emotional ballad that captures the pain of rejection, turning it into a rallying cry for those told they don’t belong. Its opening lines resonate with the autistic experience of masking and camouflaging, which can lead to the exhaustion that comes from constantly trying to fit in and hide one’s true self.
Self-Worth Beyond Society’s Judgment
Near the end of the song, Keala Settle passionately sings, “I know I deserve your love, there’s nothing I’m not worthy of,” asserting that her self-worth is not dictated by others’ opinions.
Many autistic adults grapple with ‘imposter syndrome,’ feeling as though they are merely pretending to be competent and normal in neurotypical spaces. “This Is Me” resonates with the pressure that you may have experienced of being judged as not ‘good enough’ in these environments.
The turning point in the song reflects a mindset shift—from pain and self-pity to recognising your true value, independent of others’ perceptions.
The Transformation of Suffering into Strength
“This Is Me” goes beyond the healing of psychological wounds; it illustrates how individuals can transform their emotional scars from past struggles into stepping stones that build resilience and self-compassion, empowering them to advocate for themselves and others.
The key, I have found, is not to dwell on these challenges or let them define us, nor is it about forgetting them. The best path to true happiness and activism—whether loud or quiet—comes from reinterpreting these struggles through a lens of self-acceptance and using our strengths to contribute to our communities in meaningful ways.
Standing Strong in the Face of Opposition
The song’s message is one of defiance. We are encouraged to be like “warriors” who stand tall in triumph and refuse to be intimidated by opposition, whether it manifests as gossip or outright exclusion.
For autistic adults, being “brave” may mean assertively advocating for accommodations at work, setting boundaries with friends to protect your energy levels, or openly expressing your sensory needs.
The determination conveyed in the line “marching on to the beat I drum” can symbolise navigating these challenges without yielding to the pressure to constantly explain or justify oneself to those who aren’t listening.
The Fear of Authenticity
Years of conditioning can be difficult to break. I had learned to act in ways that avoid the judgments of others. Yet deep down, I knew this was not a true reflection of my worth.
Masking has often been, and still is, necessary to avoid pain. However, as you begin to take these steps, you will find freedom, fulfilment, and satisfaction. Being open comes with risks that can leave you vulnerable.
That is why it’s crucial to unmask slowly. Start in safe spaces where you know you can be vulnerable without getting hurt. Listen to feedback with openness and curiosity.
Taking Ownership of Your Story
The climactic moment comes when we recognise that each person has the power to define their own identity. This challenges our tendency to be defined by social expectations and the judgments of others who may condemn us.
The song’s musical crescendo mirrors the breakthrough moment in the lyrical narrative when Keala Settle’s character makes it clear that she has stopped apologising for who she is despite people’s sneers.
As an autistic individual, you can integrate this shift in your mindset into your daily life. Instead of feeling embarrassed or ashamed, you can celebrate your identity and express it joyfully in front of others.
Quiet, Authentic Influence
Changing the world doesn’t always require loud activism. While important, strident self-advocacy, such as that portrayed in the song, is just one approach; often, it’s the small, everyday actions that matter most.
These activities include living unapologetically, setting boundaries, and educating others when you feel comfortable. Such actions also contribute to long-term change and help dismantle the cycles that promote inequality.
The message of “This Is Me” is not just about well-being and personal growth. It’s about patiently influencing society by living authentically as someone unique—it’s about celebrating that difference rather than hiding it.
How to Apply the Song’s Message
You can apply the song’s message by taking small steps toward unmasking and embracing your true self each day, whether through self-reflection, politely yet firmly speaking out when needed, or simply joyfully acknowledging your worth. Every action is important, no matter how small.
The beauty of “This Is Me” lies not only in healing wounds but in speaking out and making a difference. By embodying this message in everyday life and connecting authentically with others, you can gradually reshape society’s perceptions of autism and create a world where you can truly be yourself.
To view the full lyrics see here: https://genius.com/Keala-settle-and-the-greatest-showman-ensemble-this-is-me-lyrics